Friend…it’s not what you think

It’s Five Minute Friday! Today’s prompt is “Friends”. This one is a fave. Would love to hear about your best friend!

Writing about “friends” is risky. You could leave that special someone out of your post and offend them. You could not include a family member and face “the look” for the next ten Thanksgiving holidays.

If you choose one of your children…well…I think you know where that would get you.

Of course you would expect me to write about Jesus! I do that several times each week and He definitely is ALWAYS there for me. He never lets me down, never offends me, and never forsakes me, no matter how many mistakes I make.

This other friend has been there for me for 38 years.

Day in.

Day out.

And he definitely is not God.

A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still gently allows you to grow.

That’s from Shakespeare. He nailed it.

We were kids when we met. Then we were friends. Quickly we became boyfriend and girlfriend.

Okay, we were a little too old for that but since this was the age before texting, we did have to rely on notes.

We left them everywhere. Since we were in high school together for one year, we would leave them in each other’s lockers in between classes. Highlight of my day was to see a folded up smidgeon of a note sticking out of the vents in my locker!

I would find them dropped through the window of my 1971 Nova (Yeah, be jealous).
I would leave them inside of his 1977 Firethorn Red Camaro (Okay, NOW you can be jealous).

Then of course there was snail mail.

These “love letters” were not things we couldn’t say face to face. But since we didn’t see each other every minute of the day, or even every day, they were the avenue to keep in touch.

We couldn’t wait to be together, we always had so much to talk about. To plan. To dream.

This man has always accepted me for what I am, encouraged me in everything I have ever attempted, and loved me in spite of my plethora of flaws.

We have been through LIFE together.

 

Shared the joy, heartache and memories of helping grow Our Three Sons and the blessing of a beautiful daughter-in-law, who has been a part of our family for so long we cannot imagine life before Rachel.

Thirty eight years later we are together every day.

All day.
24/7.
365.
Together.

We’ve changed. ALOT. And yet we are still the same.

Come July we will celebrate 35 years of marriage. The 38 includes ALL of our togetherness! Now that we have entered the Empty Nest, it’s back to the two of us again. It’s not so bad, really. This love is what made a lifetime of memories for us and gave life and meaning to three others. We started out as friends. It’s a good thing to go back to.

Think I will go write a note, find someplace to hide it and surprise my friend.

38 years

 

 

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21 thoughts on “Friend…it’s not what you think

  1. Candace Jo Post author

    You can still write about him Dolly! 🙂 Before the internet…it’s hard to remember sometimes isn’t it! Blessings to you too my friend!

  2. Candace Jo Post author

    To you too Cheryl! Blessings!

  3. Candace Jo Post author

    Yes it does Helene! We have a lot to be thankful for!

  4. Candace Jo Post author

    Thank you Jane…appreciate you!

  5. Candace Jo Post author

    Thank you Floyd! To Him and one another, blessings.

  6. Candace Jo Post author

    You will Amy, you will. Just keep working at it and remember why you married each other to begin with! Blessings to you for six years!

  7. Candace Jo Post author

    Lol! I don’t know about cute any longer. 🙁 But thank you. Love everything you said about your mother Sharon. How beautiful. So glad you still have that special relationship with her. God bless YOU!

  8. Candace Jo Post author

    Yes, Sherri, He is awesome. Blessings, friend.

  9. Candace Jo Post author

    Thank you Danita, it isn’t perfect but we keep working on it and find that love endures regardless! Blessings!

  10. Candace Jo Post author

    You are so welcome friend! Thank you for taking the time to comment. ♥

  11. Danita Carr

    Thank you so much for sharing this at Family Fun Friday! What a beautiful encouraging relationship. What an inspiration and example your marriage is to your family and others.

  12. Sherri

    Beautiful! Life is good! God is awesome!

  13. Sharon

    Are you guys too cute or what?!

    Though I am not excluding my hubby from my best friend list, I have to mention my mom. She was just up here visiting us in the mountains for the first time since we moved two years ago. I’m beyond pleased to say that she did great in the altitude. And when she sat between my husband and I on Easter Sunday, I realized how much she has been my best friend for almost 60 years. She’s a blessing I never take for granted.

    GOD BLESS!

  14. Amy Reasoner

    This is so beautiful! I hope I still consider my husband my best friend when we’ve been married 38 years (we just celebrated 6 last weekend0. Thanks for this encouraging and beautiful picture of a wonderful, long marriage!

  15. Floyd

    Awesome post! How wonderful for the both of you. May God continue to bless you as you run the race with honor; To Him, and one another. Heartwarming, Nannette.

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  17. Jane

    🙂 Awww, Nannette, that was so beautiful!! Congratulations!

  18. Helene

    Aw! I’ve got a best friend like that myself. It makes all the difference in the world when you’re facing life together! I’ll be sure to give him a kiss today!

  19. Cheryl Smith

    What a sweet post and tribute to your husband! Thanks for sharing your heart. 🙂 Lots of love to you.

  20. Dolly Lee (@SoulStops)

    Nannette,
    How truly tender and beautiful…Congrats on 38 years and remaining friends…my hubby and I met in high school, at a church summer camp, before the Internet so we did snail mail…after reading yours, I realize I could have written about my husband 🙂 blessings to you 🙂

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